In the world of ultra-high-net-worth (UHNW) individuals, dating after divorce comes with unique challenges and risks. This article explores the potential benefits of professional matchmaking services for UHNW clients, drawing on insights from experienced divorce attorneys. Discover how vetted introductions and strategic dating options can help protect assets and minimize legal risks in high-stakes romantic pursuits.
- Matchmakers Protect UHNW Clients Post-Divorce
- Vetted Introductions Minimize Future Legal Risks
- Matchmaking Services Offer Strategic Dating Options
- High-Stakes Dating Calls for Professional Assistance
#1 Matchmakers Protect UHNW Clients Post-Divorce
As a family law and divorce attorney practicing in Florida, I don’t formally recommend matchmakers as part of the legal process. However, for ultra-high-net-worth (UHNW) clients, the topic of using a professional matchmaker often arises informally once the divorce is finalized. In these cases, when clients have gone through complex litigation involving business valuations, asset protection, and privacy concerns, introducing vetted, discreet dating options can help prevent future legal complications.
Florida is an equitable distribution state, which means that marital assets and liabilities are divided fairly—not necessarily equally. For UHNW individuals who have already weathered high-stakes negotiations over prenuptial agreements, trusts, and closely held businesses, there’s usually a heightened awareness of how vulnerable a new relationship could make them—legally and financially. If a new partner were to move in, questions of cohabitation and alimony modification could come into play under Florida law (particularly under Fla. Stat. § 61.14). Similarly, if the client remarries without a proper prenuptial agreement, any new marriage could trigger spousal rights to assets, including elective share or homestead rights under Florida’s constitution and probate laws.
When UHNW clients express an interest in dating post-divorce, I often advise them to consider using high-end matchmaking services that screen for compatibility, discretion, and shared values. While this isn’t legal advice per se, it’s a practical suggestion rooted in the goal of minimizing risk and preserving the client’s estate planning and asset protection strategies.
Florida courts have recognized that lifestyle and emotional stability can play roles in ongoing custody matters. If children are involved and the client is seeking to establish a stable, supportive new relationship, a well-matched partner can reinforce their position in any future modification or enforcement proceedings.
While divorce attorneys in Florida don’t typically hand out business cards for matchmakers, we do recognize the value of their services for clients with a lot to protect. Helping UHNW clients think strategically about new relationships—just like we do with their real estate, trusts, or business holdings—is part of providing holistic legal counsel in the post-divorce phase.
by Joy Owenby, Founder and Family Law Attorney, Owenby Law, P.A.
#2 Vetted Introductions Minimize Future Legal Risks
To be fair, no attorney is in the business of matchmaking. However, astute lawyers understand risk management. Ultra-high-net-worth (UHNW) clients with assets approaching $30 million or more are often guided towards vetted introductions for a reason. It is not about romance; it is about protection. The goal is to reduce exposure, eliminate opportunism, and avoid another costly settlement in the future. A curated match carries fewer surprises than a random app swipe. That peace of mind is worth more than a background check.
In reality, suggesting a matchmaker is less about love and more about control. It involves limiting emotional volatility, keeping the circle small, and minimizing information leaks. This decision protects privacy and future leverage. While lawyers may not directly recommend it in writing, in closed-door conversations, it arises more frequently than people might expect. When reputation costs seven figures to repair, whom you date becomes a business strategy.
by Shane Lucado, Esq., Founder & CEO, InPerSuit™
#3 Matchmaking Services Offer Strategic Dating Options
As a divorce attorney working with high-net-worth and ultra-high-net-worth (UHNW) clients, I wouldn’t say recommending a matchmaker is common practice, but it comes up more often than people might think, especially in private conversations after the dust settles.
UHNW clients often face unique trust, privacy, and compatibility challenges in the dating world. Post-divorce, some are understandably cautious about jumping back into relationships, particularly when financial vulnerability or legacy planning is involved. In that context, a vetted, discreet matchmaking service can be a strategic move, not just a romantic one.
While I don’t formally refer clients to matchmakers as part of legal representation, I’ve absolutely had clients ask whether using one is “safer” or more efficient than dating apps. My response? If you’re serious about avoiding future legal and emotional entanglements, a professional matchmaker who understands your values—and your estate plan—isn’t a bad investment.
So no, it’s not a standard recommendation. But for clients with wealth, reputation, and legacy at stake, it’s far from rare.
by Kalim Khan, Co-founder & Senior Partner, Affinity Law
#4 High-Stakes Dating Calls for Professional Assistance
Divorce attorneys working with UHNW (Ultra-High-Net-Worth) clients often suggest using a matchmaker, especially for those who value privacy and want a more curated approach to dating. The process of divorce can leave people feeling vulnerable, and the stakes are higher for high-net-worth individuals, who may worry about maintaining their privacy or managing the complexities of their assets.
In practice, I’ve seen many UHNW clients prefer matchmakers because they offer a more discreet and personalized process. For instance, I represented a client who went through a high-profile divorce. They used a matchmaker to avoid the public scrutiny that typically surrounds relationships of their stature. This allowed them to focus on finding a meaningful connection without the distraction of unnecessary media attention. Divorce attorneys understand that protecting both personal and financial interests is a priority for their clients, so recommending a matchmaker can be a wise strategy.
by Oliver Morrisey, Owner, Director, Empower Wills & Estate Lawyers
