If you wondered if getting to your person was a goal you should continue to pursue, then you need to keep reading!
Getting to the person that you genuinely know is your perfect match will take putting forth some effort. You need to look at your approach to dating and how effective it has been. Many times you can feel like you are making a lot of effort to “put yourself out there” and yet the effort is not really moving the needle on creating the results you desire.
Many times we try to debate with ourselves about someone we have met and feel he/she is good enough. This is where many singles go wrong. Know this, when you meet the right person there will be no debating, or weighing out pros and cons. So many of our clients have said ” I always needed to weigh things out in my head after I met someone, until I met…” As Matchmakers, we have had this conversation with our clients too many times to count! Once they met the person they were truly meant to be with, there was no question.
The best gift in life is feeling safe and understood by someone, especially someone you have just met. It is definitely worth going through the arduous task of dating to get there. Like every other success in life, persistence is key. Our Matchmakers definitely know it is well worth the effort! We get to experience the end result of finding love daily through our clients. We have the pleasure of seeing their life transformed forever. So how do you stay motivated when the road seems to be endless and the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel, is hardly existent?
First, you have to ask yourself “Have you made any changes in the avenues you utilize in dating and have they been effective? Think about your work life. You probably see people in your field working incredibly hard and yet they don’t do as well as the other people in your company who work just as hard. Effort is not the only thing that counts. Creating new strategies and working smart plays a huge role. The effectiveness of what you do in your dating life does not necessarily have a direct correlation to the level of activity.
It’s the uniqueness in your actions that you take, that increases the level of effectiveness. Knowing this, think about what you can do differently to effect the quality of people you can consider when dating. Some ideas: Join a group of an activity you really enjoy, host a party and ask everyone to bring a single friend with them, join a new gym to change the scenery, to open new opportunities for yourself. If you really are looking to cut to the chase, then you may want to consider putting your search in the hands of a professionals. This is one of many options singles have today.
The busier singles become and the more they value their free time, the more likely they will take this route. Some singles may find that meeting people in the area of the country they now live in may pose a challenge. You may find the demographic of singles is minimal, or that because you are from another area of the country, you are finding it hard to connect with like minded singles. This is another thing you may need to take in account.
So many people today are transient due to their job and the progress in their career, which in turn, makes it hard to build a network. This makes many of the options we shared above, to be harder to implement. When singles are new to an area we typically encourage singles to hire a Matchmaker to help bridge the gap. If the expense of a service is prohibitive, you can always make sure you let your new colleagues and acquaintances that you have a connection with, know that you are single.
There is no easy fix, but with a good plan and an open mind, dating can definitely become more appealing. As Matchmakers we know dating can feel like a means to an end, but remember, the end result is worth the means! Happy Dating and the best of Love!