Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Am I too picky when it comes to dating?” Well, this is a common problem. On the one hand, you need to have clear expectations, and you cannot lower your standards too much; on the other hand, it’s easy to fall into the trap of unrealistic expectations. You’re treading a fine line, so how do you know if you’re too picky or not? We’ll help you answer this question here—read on to find out more!
Is Being Too Picky with Dating Bad?
In general, yes, you don’t want to be too picky. If you’ve set your expectations too high, you might never find the love of your life. At the same time, remember that it works both ways: are you 100% perfect so that a picky person would choose you?
The thing is that we all have our faults, and nobody’s perfect. Thus, if you’re too picky, you don’t give the chance to some great singles… and yourself. After all, who knows, you could build a loving, long-lasting relationship with one of them.
4 Signs You Are Too Picky with Dating
We’ve established that you don’t want to be too picky. But, at the same time, you need to have expectations—they just shouldn’t be too high. So, how do you know if you should confront your dating expectations vs. reality or if you should keep them intact? Here are some signs that can answer this question for you!
You Can’t Reason with Logic
One of the main signs that you are too picky when dating is if you cannot justify your rejections. If you just “feel” that they are not the right person but can’t provide a logical argument, it might mean you should lower your expectations. However, remember that it may also be your gut telling you not to pursue a relationship—don’t make decisions based only on this sign, but also look for other signs.
You Easily Turn Down the Second Date
You didn’t feel butterflies in your stomach? Maybe their jokes weren’t as funny as you’d like them to be? If you turn down the second date the moment you didn’t “click” on the first date, you’re likely too picky.
Yes, first impressions on the first date matter, but… if you don’t give them time, neither you nor they will be able to build a connection.
You Haven’t Had a Long-Term Relationship for a While
Another potential sign that you might be too picky is… the time since your last long-term relationship (or any relationship at all). If it happened a few years ago, you might potentially be looking for the perfect man or woman.
You Don’t Want to Be in a Relationship
Like many other signs, this does not have to mean that you’re too picky unequivocally… but it might. You might be too picky if you’re constantly saying that you’re not ready for love and turn down singles whom others (friends and family) see as great potential partners. Naturally, this could be the result of past trauma or a terrible relationship, but it doesn’t change the fact that it might make it more difficult for you to find your soulmate.
How to Handle Being Too Picky?
If you believe that, based on the above signs, you are too picky, we recommend… thinking about your priorities. Frequently, singles who are too picky are too focused on details that don’t matter and make them deciding factors. It might be so that you don’t have to lower your expectations but rather re-think them and decide which qualities you value most.
At the same time, you might not be picky at all but rather subconsciously find faults in every partner due to past experiences. This is a bit more tricky, but we’re sure you’ll be able to overcome this challenge!
The Takeaway
Are you too picky in dating? You know how to find it out and resolve the issue. Remember, don’t lower your standards too much—the less you expect, the less you get. But don’t set them too high either—you want to be realistic. It might take some time to adjust, especially if you were picky subconsciously, but realizing the problem is the first step. We’re counting on you to overcome this challenge and find love since you deserve it!
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