Professional Matchmaking For Elite Singles

Select Date Society was founded on the idea that singles today need a better option in the dating arena. Our luxury professional matchmakers understand that each client requires very specific needs to succeed. We take a tailored, personalized matchmaking approach to create opportunities for optimal success. The one-size-fits-all approach of most services, whether online dating or personal matchmaking, often fail to produce the results clients desire. ... Read More
SDS clients expect to be one of the select few, not one of many, as with large franchise organizations. They choose us for our exclusiveness as a boutique elite matchmaking firm and our highly seasoned team of professional matchmakers. Our matchmakers custom-fit a program specifically for you to achieve your desired end goal. Clients feel confident that we will exceed their quality and service expectations with our discreet, uniquely designed matchmaking services.
Most singles we work with embody the criteria for successful relationships. The challenge is access to quality singles rather than meeting people in general. Some clients appreciate additional support from their own professional matchmaker, gaining insight and date feedback to assess their dates accurately. This input has a proven track record to build confidence and accelerate their end goal.
We know no one perseveres when blindly dating. That's why Select Date Society matchmakers are dedicated to transforming your dating journey into an enjoyable and successful one. Our matchmakers are committed to helping you persevere and find joy in the process of finding a meaningful connection.
If you seek a unique, executive matchmaking professional approach that encourages and supports your dating efforts, Select Date Society is the perfect choice. Our firm puts singles back in the driver’s seat, helping them get excited about dating again. Whether reentering the dating scene or ready to find the love of your life, SDS matchmakers will make it happen.
Select Date Society offers a fun dating experience while maintaining high standards of selection and service. We tailor services by membership level to meet expectations and provide what’s necessary for success. Our goal is to make dating fun with a specific action plan. Whether you want minimal or full matchmaker support, SDS stays laser-focused on making this life challenge achievable.
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Amber Lee

CEO & Co-Founder

Amber is a certified matchmaker, enneagram coach, Gottman 7 Principles leader, and strategic intervention coach with a bachelor’s degree in business administration. She has been a professional matchmaker since 1998. Amber combines her experience, knowledge, and intuition to help her clients find their perfect match!
Over the years, Amber has become particularly known for her work with executives, entrepreneurs, and internationally mobile clients seeking highly personalized matchmaking experiences.

Sandra Myers

President & Co-Founder

Sandra is a certified Matchmaker with a degree in speech communications and organizational management. Sandra has been a professional matchmaker since 1996. Her ability to quickly read singles and instinctively ascertain the qualities needed to make a great connection, has been the key to her success. Clients love her no nonsense approach, expertise and passion for getting results.
Sandra is particularly sought after for her work with successful professionals, founders, and high-achieving individuals who value discretion, efficiency, and exceptional results.
SDS was founded by Amber Lee and Sandra Myers with the shared mission of becoming the “Gold Standard” in elite matchmaking. With more than 50 years of combined experience, they have built a firm dedicated to outcomes over volume. They’ve curated a highly experienced team, bringing together professionals with backgrounds in psychology, coaching, recruiting, and relationship strategy. Our team is the heart of our success. Meet our Matchmakers.
Read More Amber’s strength lies in her deep professional network and long-standing relationships, while Sandra’s focus on elevating client experience has created a culture of warmth, trust, and excellence. Together, they’ve cultivated a service where clients feel supported, heard, and understood. SDS is more than a service, it's a partnership built on integrity and shared goals. Our clients know that we’re as committed to their outcome as they are.
Select Date Society is also proud to give back. After Amber survived sudden cardiac arrest, SDS made a commitment to support others through heart-health awareness and charitable giving. A portion of every membership goes directly to the American Heart Association. By working with us, you’re not only investing in your future, you're helping us support life-saving research with every heart we touch.
Today, Select Date Society serves successful singles throughout major markets including Miami, Palm Beach, New York, Silicon Valley, Beverly Hills, Los Angeles, Washington DC, Boston, other US cities and internationally in cities such as London, Dubai, Toronto, Milan, and Paris.
Our clients include founders, entrepreneurs, physicians, attorneys, investors, executives, family office principals, celebrities, professional athletes, Ivy League graduates, and high-net-worth individuals who value privacy, efficiency, discretion, and meaningful relationships.
Whether supporting a nationwide search or a highly personalized international introduction, our focus remains the same: exceptional service, thoughtful introductions, and extraordinary outcomes.
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Servicing Areas

Popular
New York California Menlo Park Miami Palm Beach Phoenix San Francisco Silicon Valley Virginia Washington D.C.
Northeast
New York Boston Hartford Hudson Yards Long Island Manhattan Martha’s Vineyard Nantucket New Haven Philadelphia SoHo Star Island The Hamptons Tribeca
Southeast
Arlington Atlanta Baltimore Bethesda Boca Raton Charleston Charlotte Chevy Chase Fisher Island Jupiter Key Biscayne McLean Miami Naples Nashville Palm Beach Potomac Richmond Tampa Virginia Washington D.C. Wolf Trap
Southwest
Austin Dallas Phoenix Scottsdale Southlake
West
Beverly Hills Boulder California Denver Indian Wells Las Vegas Los Altos Los Angeles Menlo Park Palm Desert San Diego San Francisco San Jose Seattle Silicon Valley
Midwest
Chicago Cleveland Minneapolis St. Louis
International

United Arab Emirates

Dubai


United Kingdom

London


Italy

Milan


France

Paris


Canada

Toronto

Frequently Asked Questions

How does the matchmaking process work at Select Date Society?

Every client relationship begins with a confidential consultation and a personalized strategy. Our Matchmakers get to know your unique relationship goals and preferences before introducing you to compatible, vetted singles from our private database. We offer ongoing support, feedback, and coaching after each introduction to help you grow and make informed choices.

Is my privacy protected throughout the matchmaking process?

Absolutely. Privacy and discretion are core values at Select Date Society. All client information is handled with the utmost confidentiality, and our process is designed to protect your identity and personal details at every step.

How Much Does Elite Matchmaking Cost?

Pricing for elite matchmaking isn’t one-size-fits-all and with good reason. You’re not just paying for introductions; you’re investing in a highly personalized and discreet service built around your goals, lifestyle, and expectations.



Most luxury matchmaking memberships begin around $75,000, with premium programs ranging into the multiple six figures. The investment reflects the depth of access you receive to curated networks, experienced matchmakers, ongoing guidance, and the priceless time saved in finding the right person without the noise of modern dating.




At the very top of this spectrum sits The Founder’s Club, our most exclusive membership experience. This is personally led by Select Date Society co-founders Amber Lee and Sandra Myers, and represents an investment of $1 million. Designed for one individual at a time, it delivers unparalleled privacy, direct founder involvement, and a truly bespoke approach that extends far beyond traditional matchmaking.

Who typically becomes a Select Date Society client?

Our clients include successful professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, physicians, attorneys, investors, celebrities, high-net-worth individuals, and internationally mobile clients seeking a more intentional, private, and personalized approach to finding a meaningful relationship.

How seriously does SDS treat privacy and discretion?

Extremely seriously.

For some of our clients — executives, public figures, UHNWI privacy isn’t a preference; it’s a requirement. We treat privacy with the highest priority and use NDAs, secure communication and strict data handling protocols. Your details are kept confidential throughout the entire luxury matchmaking process.

Does matchmaking actually work for people with demanding lifestyles?

In many cases, it works better.

When someone is successful, mobile, or deeply focused on their work, dating becomes harder not easier. Curated private introductions remove the noise. High-achieving clients often tell us they finally met someone who “fits,” because the process was intentional rather than hopeful.

How do you find a professional matchmaker?

At Select Date Society, we recommend starting with trusted referrals or searching for matchmakers who specialize in elite, personalized matchmaking. Look for proven experience, strong privacy standards, and a hands-on approach. Book a consultation to ensure their process aligns with your expectations. Transparency and confidentiality are key qualities. Select Date Society proudly upholds to help you find meaningful connections with discretion and care.