Hiring a matchmaker is a powerful step—but it’s not the first step.
Before you invest in a high-level, boutique matchmaking experience, there are a few things every serious single should do to ensure the process is meaningful, efficient, and tailored to the right outcome.
#1 Get Clear on What You Actually Want
Not just what sounds good on paper. Not what your friends or family think you should want. But what you—based on your real lifestyle, values, and long-term vision—truly desire in a partner. When this is clear, matchmaking becomes focused and fruitful.
#2 Reflect on Past Relationship Patterns
You don’t need to be perfect—but you do need to be self-aware. What has or hasn’t worked in the past? What role did you play in the dynamic? The more introspective and honest you are, the more your matchmaker can help you break old cycles.
#3 Evaluate Your Readiness
This includes emotional readiness, time, and energy. Are you truly available for a relationship, or just lonely or curious? A good matchmaker will vet for this. The best clients are the ones who are fully prepared to show up for the process—and for their future partner.
#4 Decide What Level of Privacy and Personalization You Expect
If you’re seeking discretion, hand-selected matches, and access to the caliber of individuals who don’t advertise themselves online, then you’re looking for more than a dating service. You’re looking for something much more refined. And that means finding a firm whose values align with your own.
#5 Choose a Matchmaker You Trust—Not One Who Sells You
Real matchmaking is not a numbers game. It’s not transactional. It’s intentional, personal, and built on mutual trust. If you're speaking directly with the founder or lead matchmaker—take note. That’s rare. That means you're not being sold to… you’re being considered.
When you’ve done the inner work, a quality matchmaker doesn’t just find you someone—you’ll both recognize when the right one arrives. And that’s when the real magic begins.
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They prefer boutiques that understand their world — its pace, its expectations, its risks. Select Date Society is often the choice for Elite Matchmaking because the work is quiet, curated, and grounded in reality. It’s private introductions designed for people who need more than a list of names. It's an elevated approach built for those who move through life at a different altitude.
In many cases, it works better.
When someone is successful, mobile, or deeply focused on their work, dating becomes harder not easier. Curated private introductions remove the noise. High-achieving clients often tell us they finally met someone who “fits,” because the process was intentional rather than hopeful.
There’s no single mold. We meet CEOs who live on planes, founders who built their own world from scratch, UHNW Singles who want someone who understands the pace they keep, and individuals from real estate, finance, law, medicine, entertainment… the list is long. What ties them together isn’t status. It’s preference. They want thoughtful introductions, handled quietly, with people who genuinely fit.