Ready for 2022 dating tips?
This year can be different should you consider good advice: Fail to plan, then plan to fail. So how can you plan a better outcome for your dating life?
When you think about accomplishments and how you have achieved them, I am sure you had a strategy to produce the best-desired outcome. Dating should be no different, and having an action plan to increase your opportunity is vital. When you are single, and you are ready to make your love life a priority, you want to take the time and consider what you truly want in a partner. Once you have a clear vision of what you need in a relationship, you can then start working on a strategy to up your odds of being successful.
To begin, you need to think about the type of person you have described and then think about where someone like that would be in the general public? For instance, if you want someone outdoorsy and athletic, then you might want to join a meet-up group for hiking or a running group to get yourself around like-minded people. I have had friends say, “There are no single men in those groups.” I say to them, “It doesn’t matter.”
In order to affect your outcome, you need to be connected with the type of people who would know the type of partner you would like to be introduced to. It doesn’t matter if they are in the group, just that they are connected with someone who is. Exposure is key in order for an opportunity to arise.
How do you approach someone without feeling too forward?
Now that you have the exposure, how do you initiate a connection when you’re not sure if the person is single? (This means you have met through an event or activity and there is no introduction.) The best way to approach someone new is to ask a question that you know they can clearly answer. For example: If you are at a 5K run and you see they have their shirt and number on, you can easily ask where to get registered or where can you pick up your packet?
The key is to make sure you smile and then give them a compliment after they have responded in order to show interest. It is typically obvious if there is interest. They will continue the conversation or offer to walk you to the pick-up spot themselves. This works! I know it may take you out of your comfort zone, but who gets ANYTHING accomplished in a comfort zone?
When you know there is interest, how do you ask for the date?
I know for men and women, this may seem different in many single’s minds, but it doesn’t have to be when you ask with confidence. The key to securing the date is to make sure you have them smiling and engaging in the conversation with you. Depending on the setting, a simple “Would love to hear more about”…whatever you were discussing, the race, etc. If the response is positive and they are interested in having a further conversation, then it is easily done by saying, “Let’s grab something after the race.”
If you noticed, it was not in question format on purpose. There is really no decision-making to be had. It is a statement that they either agree to or decline. It takes out the “Is this a date?” thing and starts things off by building a common bond.
I hope these tips will give you an opportunity to up your dating game this upcoming year! Allow yourself to have better opportunities for success by being more daring and taking a risk.
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