We all have been there…. You are on a first date and you’re interested but you have to weigh out how much interest you want to show. How much is enough? How much is too much? How often do you find yourself willing to take the risk of showing your interest and not worry about the outcome?
It is in that last question that most of us find we are not as brave as we would like to be. Fear has the power and the ability to get in our way when it comes to dating. Shouldn’t we be able to express what we feel and not worry about whether or not it will be reciprocated? Is it more important to maintain the posture of control, than to put yourself in a position to succeed?
When you are aiming to accomplish something that is important in life, I assume like our clients, most of you have always strived to put yourself in the best position to succeed. So why, when it comes to your love life, do you switch the rules and change the game plan? Simply put, it’s ego. Who wants to be on the receiving end of feeling unappreciated, when you know you have so much to offer?
I am sure you don’t want to feel worse after a date than before the date. So how can we avoid this and also allow our date to know it would be a yes, if they were willing to ask you out again?
One thing you must know about 1st dates is that everyone is vulnerable. If you’re not, then you probably don’t care how it turns out and you most likely like dating and don’t care about a second date. I am speaking to the singles that are in it with good intention and genuinely want to find their partner.
For all of you invested in a positive outcome, know you have to be willing to take the risk to get to the reward. This can actually be done where you can walk away feeling good regardless of the outcome.
Tip #1: Test the waters toward the end of the date- Say something like “I am planning on seeing that play/concert/festival/sporting event (whatever naturally fits into the conversation) in a few weeks; Are you going? If they seem excited and say “yes,” that’s a good sign. If they say “no” and show no interest in hearing about it, then most likely this is not going anywhere anytime soon.
Tip #2: When the check comes and the guy says he will take care of the check, it is always a great time to check interest by saying “OK, but then I get the next time (with a chuckle and a smile) and see if there is a response like “Oh that sounds great!” If you do not have a positive reaction then you will know where you stand. It says something without saying too much. It shows interest if he is paying attention but without being too forward.
Tip #3: If you are bold and want to take a chance and directly invite them to a second date then feel free! Sometimes someone will have more interest in you when they see your confidence. This will not change chemistry, but it just may get you to a second date, where chemistry will have another opportunity to kick in!
Good Luck and Happy Dating!
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